7 Simple S&M Techniques For Beginners

If you’re looking for S&M techniques for beginners…

This guide is for you.

Below you’ll discover 7 S&M techniques to spice up your sex life that are PERFECT for beginners!

Let’s jump in.

S&M Techniques For Beginners

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1: CBT

CBT stands for cock and ball torture, and it is the act of torturing a man’s cock and balls!

There are different devices, toys, and methods that are used in CBT.

Such as:

• Testicle cuffs
• Humbler
• Parachute
• Ball crusher
• Ball stretcher
• Kicking and stomping
• Clamps
• Candle wax
• Slapping and smacking

2: Impact Play

Impact play refers to the act of being struck by your partner.

Popular methods for impact play include:

• Smacking and slapping using hands
• Whips
• Paddles
• Wooden spoon
• Spanking

The most common areas to hit during impact play are the butt and face.

3: Choking

Choking is a very common S&M act.

There are different methods used in sexual choking.

Including:

• Hands
• Ligature
• Collars
• Hanging
• Plastic bag over the head

Choking can be a dangerous act, so be careful!

4: Wax Play

Wax play is the act of dripping hot candle wax onto your partner, or having them drip it onto you.

The safest candles to use are soy, and paraffin.

5: Clamps

The use of clamps in S&M acts is very popular and for good reason — it’s hot!

Clamps are normally used on the nipples and genitals.

6: Biting

Biting is another popular S&M act.

Common areas to bite are:

• Neck
• Shoulders
• Back
• Inner thighs
• Nipples
• Bum

Some people also enjoy having their genitals bitten.

7: Sounding

Sounding is the practice of inserting objects into the urethra.

This can be done with a partner, or solo.

S&M Safety Guideline

Talk To Your Partner

Before anything else, it’s always best to speak with your partner first and foremost.

Let them know you’re interested in trying some S&M acts, and ask how they feel about the idea.

You could even refer them to information around BDSM so they can read about it and learn more.

Choose A Safe Word Together

Some forms of S&M can be quite extreme and lead to pain and discomfort.

So it’s important for you and your partner to come up with a safe word together.

A word that let’s the other person know boundaries have been crossed, and to stop the act right away.

This is crucial, because it’s often difficult to distinguish between playful banter, and intense pain where the person actually wants you to stop.

Start Small

If you’re new to S&M, start small.

You don’t need anything complex, or to try stuff that’s difficult or really dangerous.

Start off with light S&M acts such as gentle hair pulling or smacking.

Then over time as you gain more experience, gradually increase the extremity of it if you want to.

S&M Aftercare

S&M aftercare is where partners care for each other both mentally and physically afterwards.

This post-sex communication can help protect you and your partner physically, mentally, and emotionally.

Aftercare can include talking about the acts, cuddling, bathing each other, or any other type of calming activity.